Anxiety In Relationships

How to Help Your Significant Other

Someone with anxiety, more often than not, carries old habits into a relationship.

Here are some ways that your S/O may show their anxiety and how to reassure them:

1.) If they need reminding that they are loved.

Now and then your partner may spontaneously  become worried that they are not good enough for you. This is down to overthinking every little situation. 

Little reminders of how much you adore them is a great way to conquer this fear. These don't have to be extravagant or expensive surprises. It can be simple things such as leaving love notes, telling them how much you love them or preparing their favourite food for when they get home.

2.) If they ask the same questions over and over again.

A lot of people with anxiety have the habit of double checking things like times or directions multiple times. 

A good way to breeze through this scenario is to stay calm and let them know the exact plans in advance so they do not need to worry. Sometimes they will know the time firmly in their heads already and want to make sure. Other times the information has completely been forgotten due to over thinking and becoming muddled.

The worst thing to do is become annoyed with the repetition or telling them that they have asked already because they will begin to over-think this also.

3.) If they become jealous easily.

This is one sign of anxiety in relationships that I have personally found is the hardest to tackle.

Jealousy in relationships is quite common but it can turn into controlling/manipulative behaviour so it isn't a subject to take lightly. Although, with anxiety it is down to (you guessed it) over thinking. These thoughts aren't necessarily anyone's "fault".

If your partner shows signs of jealously this could be down to feeling as if others are better than them. It is the mentality of worrying of any possible worse case scenario, which to them will be infidelity.

The best way to help your S/O in this situation is to avoid any acts that could seem suspicious. Suspicious acts could include deleting texts, lying where you are or avoiding questions. Once again, little reminders of how much you love them will be sure to help them know that you are genuine.

4.) If they text/call you often and get worried when you do not reply.

People who have anxiety worry about their own personal problems however an overactive mind can create problems that they believe may happen to their S/O. Texts throughout the day might be sent just to simply check up on you to make sure you are okay. Sometimes multiple texts can be seen as annoying, however in this case, it is a sign of caring.

I know that most people have busy lives, they cannot possibly respond 24/7 but it is good to take a couple minutes out of your day to put their mind at ease.

Your partner will appreciate it if you let them know that you got to work or home safely. Small updates now again will make their day go alot smoother and they will be less likely to worry.

Even-though you can do things to help your partner. It is important that if they are struggling, you support and and encourage them to get the help that they need.

Being in a relationship with someone with anxiety may appear hard work but in the end it is rewarding. Being able to change someones life by just being there is the best feeling to experience.


1.) If They Need Reminding That They Are Loved

Now and then your partner may spontaneously become worried that they are not good enough for you. This is down to overthinking every little situation.

Little reminders of how much you adore them is a great way to conquer this fear. These don't have to be extravagant or expensive surprises. It can be simple things such as leaving love notes, telling them how much you love them or preparing their favourite food for when they get home.

2.) If They Ask the Same Questions Over and Over Again

A lot of people with anxiety have the habit of double checking things like times or directions multiple times.

A good way to breeze through this scenario is to stay calm and let them know the exact plans in advance so they do not need to worry. Sometimes they will know the time firmly in their heads already and want to make sure. Other times the information has completely been forgotten due to over thinking and becoming muddled.

The worst thing to do is become annoyed with the repetition or telling them that they have asked already because they will begin to over-think this also.

3.) If They Become Jealous Easily

This is one sign of anxiety in relationships that I have personally found is the hardest to tackle.

Jealousy in relationships is quite common but it can turn into controlling/manipulative behaviour so it isn't a subject to take lightly. Although, with anxiety it is down to (you guessed it) over thinking. These thoughts aren't necessarily anyone's "fault".

If your partner shows signs of jealously this could be down to feeling as if others are better than them. It is the mentality of worrying of any possible worse case scenario, which to them will be infidelity.

The best way to help your S/O in this situation is to avoid any acts that could seem suspicious. Suspicious acts could include deleting texts, lying where you are or avoiding questions. Once again, little reminders of how much you love them will be sure to help them know that you are genuine.

4.) If They Text/Call You Often and Get Worried When You Do Not Reply

People who have anxiety worry about their own personal problems however an overactive mind can create problems that they believe may happen to their S/O. Texts throughout the day might be sent just to simply check up on you to make sure you are okay. Sometimes multiple texts can be seen as annoying, however in this case, it is a sign of caring.

I know that most people have busy lives, they cannot possibly respond 24/7 but it is good to take a couple minutes out of your day to put their mind at ease.

Your partner will appreciate it if you let them know that you got to work or home safely. Small updates now again will make their day go alot smoother and they will be less likely to worry.

Even-though you can do things to help your partner. It is important that if they are struggling, you support and and encourage them to get the help that they need.

Being in a relationship with someone with anxiety may appear hard work but in the end it is rewarding. Being able to change someones life by just being there is the best feeling to experience.

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