How To Love/ Be In Love With Anxiety

Whether you or the person you love has anxiety, they battle something they simply cannot control which opens a whole new load of doors (doors that shouldn't be opened): the worries, the paranoia, the over-thinking, the hurt. We know it's difficult, so we don't burden you with the news. A support system of friends, family, and partners can be hugely helpful to those with anxiety, but only if their loved ones understand what they do (and do not) need to cope.

We are all worth fighting for.

It is hard when the petty arguments start to evolve, and the silly worries start to turn into issues, the dreaded paranoia staying awake with you until the early morning. However, we are the toughest people you will come across, and we know what is real and what isn't. The worries make you push stronger, so hold onto us if you are lucky enough to be here, but reassure us when the flame starts to flicker. Everything is always 100 times more intense than you would see yourself, and that's why our reactions are 100 times more intense.

Accept and Reassure

We are the most observant people on the planet. We can feel shifts in your energy, we know when you're angry, we know when you are off with us, and we know when you are happy. We will apologise for everything, even if we haven't done anything wrong. You could break an arm and we would apologise for it. But even if you do not understand why we do this, just accept our apology and reassure us. We don't ask for much, but acceptance and reassurance. It feels like a sense of comfort coming from the ones we love. Everyone is different; anxiety can hit people differently. Some may want the physical contact and the comfort and some may need space.

Feels

Having anxiety doesn't always mean we find it hard to express feelings and find it difficult to communicate. We are very chatty and well-spoken people, and we WILL tell you how we feel. We will tell you everything under the sun, from love to hate. We will tell you our worries and thoughts, which scare us. We don't drop these things on you for you to deal with, it helps us let the air out of our head. We have a sense of reassurance as we talk to you. Please don't argue back; please don't argue our worries because it makes the situation a whole more difficult.

Changes

Everyone has a comfort zone, anxiety or not. Pushing that comfort zone can be difficult for even the most well-adjusted person, so for people with anxiety it can be even more challenging. This is not to be confused with the sentiment that those with anxiety dislike change or pushing their comfort zones, because we will likely thrive once we're actually in the process of doing so. We can just find it a lot more difficult to bring ourselves to do so. We find it hard to adjust to changes. It's nervous to know what could happen in this future change.

We are pretty cool.

We are just like everyone else, but just with a twinkle of stardust. We don't expect you to adjust how we are, or be like we are. We have our moments and we will have our days just like everyone else. We are happy, we are content, we will love the life out of you, and it pays off. We are normal just like everybody else; everything is extended. We don't drop this issue on you for you to deal with. We like to mention or tell you for future reference, so don't worry too much.