This phrase has been often pointed out as a way of giving up. Unfortunately, I use it a lot. It is hard to not just give up when you have so many voices in your head telling you to. We all have them. But as somebody who has lost people because they just “gave up,” “it was too hard,” “it’s too painful,” “nobody cares”... "it is what it is.”
Well, as someone who has gotten very close to giving up, I would like to express and share some exciting news... it’s not over yet. No matter your age, life is still happening, Love happens, and peace can happen. You just have to be willing to keep fighting. And I know it is hard. I know what it is like to have every day be a battle for survival, even if your biggest task is deciding what to eat. Getting out of bed, that’s a choice. Getting dressed, that’s a choice. Living... that is a choice. A choice that believe it or not, people will THANK you for.
I battle demons, and choosing life isn’t always easy. But I remember that it isn’t just about me. It’s about my family, my friends, my kids, my husband... If you can’t live for yourself, live for them, because one of your moments of weakness will be something they carry with them the rest of their life.
Life isn't fair, but it is worth living. You can find the little things, like the sunshine or the rain, kids with balloons, laughter, snow days, fuzzy slippers or PJs. Life can only be truly seen the way that you want it to be seen. Nobody can truly change your point of view, but you could. Your mind and your heart, those belong to you, not your demons. Peace can and will be yours. Being young isn't easy, and neither is being old, but people on opposite ends of the spectrum decide to see things in their own way.
I challenge you to take a minute and think about those around you, those you may secretly judge, or who you think to judge you. Take a walk in their shoes. Take a minute to understand their pain and heartache. In some way, shape, or form, we all hurt. We all feel pain differently. We should focus less on just telling people to let it go and more on helping them do that. Depression is a long and dark tunnel. It is scary and lonely. But that is also a choice, you could ask someone to be in it with you. This game of life. It's a lot more than choosing a job and finding the perfect house and filling it with kids. It's about choosing life, for yourself.
Too many young people feel disconnected. Hopeless. Helpless. Worthless. That's where the demons come in and force them to just agree that what they feel and think is real. And that's how the battle of depression wins. But it doesn't have to. Confide in a friend, coworker, family member, even a stranger! It is better than the alternative.
I have had a couple friends lose their battle with depression and every day I wonder that I could've done better. What I should've said... or not said. When I should've come around or called. Fact is, we can try to blame ourselves for the things that didn't happen, but we are still here. We are still human. Unfortunately, it didn't come with an instruction manual. So some of us suck at it.
Life is worth living. Along with all the heartbreak and all the pain, there is happines and sunshine. The light at the end of the tunnel will appear and in that, you will find hope.