Narcissism and You

Have you ever come across that person? You know, the one that you could be screaming at the top of your lungs "PLEASE LISTEN TO ME AND UNDERSTAND WHAT I GO THROUGH!" and they simply just make you feel out of the box. They don't seem to care if they hurt you or make whatever you're going through worse. Well I have, and battling with anxiety and having to deal with this person almost every day of my life has been a real downhill battle for me. Most people diagnosed with anxiety are also diagnosed with depression. I guess it makes sense how they go hand in hand. Sometimes my anxiety is so bad I can't figure out a way to get out of my head and in that I just get depressed because I know I will never be able to truly enjoy life's little pleasures. This narcissistic person in my life fails to come to terms with it and wishes to stay in denial. That just makes life harder for the both of us because as a person with high functioning anxiety I tend to try to and get them to see themselves through my eyes. I forget that narcissists don't think they've done anything wrong and will turn the situation on you and say, "well maybe if you didn't..." or, "maybe if you did..." Let's just say it's a big unnecessary vicious cycle. I want others that have this narcissistic person in their life to understand... nothing will get through to them. Just when you think you have, they come right back with punches. I love this narcissistic person in my life, but for my mental health, I can't just sit and take it anymore. I have found the best way to cope and deal is to ignore. I won't try to fix you if you don't try and fix me. I have gotten into countless arguments trying to explain how my anxiety makes me feel and how I wish they'd at least try and see it from my point of view, but I just always end up getting hurt. I can't speak for narcissistic people but I can speak for people with anxiety, and we tell ourselves daily all of the things we wish we could do or fix or become, but reality is we can't do anything without ourselves. I mean our happy, honest selves and not the picture we try to paint in our heads. I realize that to some anxiety is seen as an "excuse." Well, then this article isn't for you. I won't convince my readers when I have to do that every day after I try over and over again to for just a second forget about my problems. I try to forget about the what ifs, the what could happens, the how do I make this person happy, and the hardest question: How do I make myself happy? It's not a once in a while question, it's a every day get out of bed and make sure everyone else around me is happy. Narcissistic or not, don't give that unnecessary extra battle for someone with anxiety. You might just make them one step closer to happiness.